Some priority in your life is almost certainly in “Last Place”. It could be your career, your leisure time, your health, a relationship with someone, or a myriad of other important things. We make decisions every day about what we are going to spend our time and effort on. Almost invariably that means something that is important doesn’t get as much attention as it should.
Focusing on progress, success and achievement is a good way to keep a positive mental attitude. But focusing too much on the positive can also be a way to distract ourselves from ugly realities, to convince ourselves that everything is ‘fine’. We may not be surrounded by flames like the popular meme, but there may be important things we are neglecting.
Conversely, focusing on negatives or failures can be very destructive if not done with purpose and intent. We can easily allow ourselves to fall into despair and convince ourselves that we are not worthy, that we are not important.
Balanced focus is required. Balance does not mean that everything in your life gets the same priority all the time. Balance demands a deep examination of your values and an understanding of what is important in the short, medium, and long terms in support of those values. Balanced focus gives you a yardstick to help determine the appropriate amount of attention to bring to your life priorities. Balance is self leadership, defining a vision and focusing on all aspects of it without being blown off course by the crisis (or triumph) of the moment.
What is important to you in life? Write it down, or if making written lists is not your thing, at least mentally define your life priorities. You might even speak them out as part of daily affirmations. The point is to have something that you can use as a foundation when making decisions. Review your list frequently to see if the importance is reflected in your actions or if you are letting certain things fall to the back of the pack. Are you letting immediate and pressing ‘needs’ derail your priorities? Decide if corrections needs to be made in the priorities or in your actions.
Last place can still cross the finish line, and can still be a success. Not everything requires your full focus at all times.
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